Truth: I Don’t Enjoy Being Pregnant

Ok. I’m just going to come right out and say it – I don’t enjoy being pregnant. Whilst I am totally mesmerized by the little miracle that is growing healthily inside my otherwise inhospitable body (according to certain specialists), I definitely do not enjoy hefty nine-month long feelings of being hung-over with exhaustion and no longer being able to fit into anything but moo-moos (thank fuck for Camilla kaftans). I know the miracle of life is something not every woman is able to experience and even thought this about myself for a fleeting second but here I am today; having a moment of self reflection on my pregnant self.


Sydney Mommy BloggerFor a while I felt pretty bad for even entertaining the notion that I might not be as elated about my pregnancy as I should be or what others tell me I should feel. I’ve finally come to terms with it and don’t feel bad about admitting this – not one little bit. I’ve been doted on and showered with the standard “you’re glowing, pregnancy really suits you and of course the ever so slightly insulting you can’t even tell!My double chin says otherwise. Truth is, that wonderful glow you see is from me panting and sweating up two flights of stairs and I really doubt pregnancy ever truly suits anyone.

 

The constant backaches throughout the second trimester that leave you unable to walk (in my case) in the middle of shopping centres because your bubs head is pressed up against a nerve in your back is not something I will ever miss. As someone who hasn’t experienced much physical discomfort or displacement in her life; aside from the odd muscle pain from overdoing it in a boxing class, being pregnant has given me a newfound appreciation for ALL mothers out there.

 

Then there’s the constant trickle of unpleasant discharge from your lady clam, uncontrollable swelling, detestable weight gain and did I mention gas? Most men like to think that their ladies fart rainbows that smell like daisies. Any mention of bowel movements would send them running for the hills dry retching whilst covering their bleeding ears. Well, this is no longer the case for Chris and I because he’s finally accepted that girls too have normal bodily functions and I’ve lost all need to ever feel embarrassed about it. Boob sweats, back fat, cellulite and stretch marks are all unfortunate bi-products that I’m sure no woman enjoys.

 

The hardest part for me throughout all of this was feeling comfortable in my own skin. You may be rolling your eyes at this stage and thinking how superficial this problem is for a pregnant woman but I’m here to tell you that the hormones you experience during pregnancy can make something as trivial as who left the fridge door open seem like a crisis that even the UN can’t solve. It’s a constant battle between wanting to stay skinny versus wanting to be gain a healthy amount of weight to make sure your baby comes out happy and strong. Sydney Mummy Blogger, Miss Guided, Why I don't enjoy being pregnant

 

Then there’s the feeling of doubt that you’ll ever fit into your old wardrobe again or snapping back to your pre-pregnant self. Standing in front of your wardrobe every morning and having only a handful of options to choose from can be so discouraging especially when you feel like a beached whale already. Oh and did I mention that your enviable shoe collection may no longer fit you even post-pregnancy sans swelling? Yep, I didn’t know this and curse myself for not purchasing half a size larger right from the get-go.

 

You’re playing host for the better part of a year to this tiny human and every decision you make will directly or indirectly affect them. Do you jump on the treadmill today for a run or just settle for a nice stroll? Can I sneak in that odd glass of wine at a birthday dinner? Is this cheese safe for me to eat? For the final months you will feel this human kick, wriggle and punch their way through your innards that will leave you crazed and no position you sleep in will EVER be comfortable enough. You sleep on your left and they kick, you sleep on your right and they punch, you sleep on your back and you can’t breathe and sleeping on your belly is logistically impossible to say the least. See how there’s no winner here?

 

Being told that our bodies were made for this usually irritates me because growing a small football inside you isn’t the sole reason you exist in this life – at least not in this day in age. Pregnancy shouldn’t be glamourized because it really isn’t unless you’re a Victoria’s Secret model/cyborg and our enjoyment of pregnancy shouldn’t directly be linked to our womanhood. I’ve decided to focus on the end goal of delivering a happy and healthy baby rather than obeying the Hollywood invented standard of what pregnancy should look and feel like.

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I don’t feel the need anymore to sashay my way into every room singing praises of how amazing pregnancy is and nor should you if that’s not what you really feel. Whilst this post may come across as being negative but my goal was to share with you how I’ve felt this entire journey and to reassure any woman who is feeling the same way that it’s completely normal and it is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re not going to be sent to the bowels of hell for thinking this. We will still love the little beans to death when they come out (even if they tear us a new asshole doing so) and protect them with our lives.

 

This was only one facet of the feelings I’ve experienced these last seven months and I’ll talk about the fear element in my next post.

 

I’m going to leave you with my little post birth bucket list that I’ve been carefully curating for the last seven months:

  • Enjoy a glass of wine with a platter of oysters, cheese and sashimi – in that order.
  • Make Chris master the art of creating Instagram worthy brunches consisting solely of eggs benedict and smoked salmon.
  • Dedicating an hour of pounding the pavement and just enjoying not having a huge load up front. God I miss running.
  • Sleeping on my stomache – in all my drooling glory.
  • Going sky-diving again.

 

Truth: I don't enjoy being pregnant

Read about how I found out about my pregnancy here

Having said all of this, I have enjoyed being able to shop around for the odd summer maxi here or there which transition nicely into your post-pregnant wardrobe and put together a little mood board for any other mothers out there preparing for their Summer baby. 

Pregnant Summer Outfit Ideas

Pregnant Summer Outfit Ideas, Sydney Mummy Blogger

 

  1. Vix Coverup – here
  2. Lack of Color – The Ventura – here 
  3. Dodo Bar Or – Embellished Embroidered Cotton Gauze Top – here
  4. Melissa Odabash – Embroidered Voile Mini Dress – here
  5. Miguelina – Printed Linen Top – here
  6. LemLem – Striped Gauze and Cotton Slub-Jersey Culottes – here
  7. LoveShackFancy – Crochet Trimmed Cotton Skirt – here
  8. Vix Coverup – here
  9. Isabel Marant Bracelet – here

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Helen Chik is a Sydney based fashion, beauty, travel and lifestyle digital content creator and influencer sharing everything from unique style to her adventures around the world through her rainbow tinted lenses.

  • Christie Elizabeth

    I love your honesty. It is SO important that we are able to openly discuss the way that we feel. You shouldn’t feel bad just because you haven’t found pregnancy as enjoyable as what the world says you should. You are doing the best you can and hey if you don’t feel it – you don’t feel it. Bottling these emotions are what can cause issues post natal so keep your mind open and talk about everything you feel girl XX

  • Nina Lewis

    I thought I was the only one who did not appreciate the pregnancy phase. I can’t say that. So many are unable to carry their own children. I focus on the blessing of the life rather than the discomfort of my feet and stretching skin. Lol

  • I loved being pregnant. Every moment of it…except the pain associated with the actual stretching of the belly. I honestly never felt more beautiful, in anything I wore, except while pregnant. I do know several people though that didn’t enjoy it, much for the same reasons you expressed. And you know what..that’s ok too!

  • I am so happy reading this and I feel you, when I was pregnant I hated every minute of it but that doesn’t mean I don’t love my son I do it’s just that we are all different and are allowed to be open with our feelings without being forced to adhere to what the rules should be. Great post.

  • Kate

    I never enjoyed being pregnant… It was always worth it in the end, but the discomfort during the process was not fun for me at all.

  • I didn’t like being pregnant either. I felt like a cow. Plus I hate throwing up, and I did a lot when I was pregnant with my son. It’s all worth it in the end, but dang it, I wasn’t a fan.

  • Dee Jaye

    It’s perfectly okay not to enjoy pregnancy. Sometimes it can be uncomfortable and all. The good thing is that end will justify the journey

  • Megan

    You shouldn’t feel guilty about not enjoying pregnancy. It’s rough us and our bodies, especially at the end!

  • Aw bless you, I had no idea that you were pregnant but a massive congratulations and you look beautiful as well. You should not feel guilty as I can imagine that while being pregnant can be a beautiful time I can imagine that it can be frightening as well! I wish you luck with your pregnancy x

  • Alice Bolte

    I never understood why women said they enjoyed pregnancy and how it was magical until I wanted a second child and I’d experienced how wonderfully life altering having a child was. No experience is the same though! Even though pregnancy may feel like hell on earth right now, congratulations to having a new little one in your life though! <3

  • Katelyn Brin Bossany

    Love your post pregnancy list, especially sleeping on your stomach! This is such an honest story of your pregnancy. So many women seem afraid to admit that it is anything other than incredible. However, it’s a massive change to your lifestyle and appearance, so we should be permitted to experience any emotions related to that transition.

  • Ann Bacciaglia

    I know a few friends that were miserable when they were pregnant. They were really nauseous the entire pregnancy. I liked being pregnant after the first 4 months passed but once I hit the 8th month I was so ready to get it over with.

  • Jen Sky Walker

    Being pregnant is hard, and while I know a few people that claimed to have easy pregnancies, neither of mine were. It is quite an experience, so whether it is positive or negative, I always leave that up to the pregnant woman to decide for herself.

  • Soon Joo Uh

    I’m sure the pregnancy is very enduring time for all women to go through but you look fabulous! I love your bucketlist!

  • Ruth Bloch

    I hated pregnancy. And I tell everyone that I hated pregnancy. Still went through it three times….cuz I love my babies! Good luck…and have a healthy, EASY delivery!

  • Adel Massyn

    Shame, I can only imagine how challenging this is. But you are looking good.

  • Fely

    You are not alone. I was the same way. All my pregnancy’s were so bad. I’m still struggleling to fit into my old clothes. Your belly is so cute though.

  • Sarah Camille Hipp

    I can’t imagine what it is like being pregnany but I really appreciate your honesty. It is important to remember that it is not something all women have an easy time with.

  • Brandi Crawford

    I love your honesty. These all sound like valid points. Definitely things I will consider before having children.

  • We are in a society where everything makes it so that women can accomplish themselves through maternity only and have to enjoy being pregnant. This post is so honest, i really loved reading it

  • I really feel my pregnancy with my son is all a blur 9 years later. I did have horrible gas pains all of Trimester 2 that were so painful. Other than that no bad symptoms except poor sleep, sore back and the usual 🙂

  • I loved reading this honest post about pregnancy. Usually you only com across posts about pregnancy and how magical and amazing it was. Every experiences it differently and it’s refreshing to read your story =o)

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  • Cynthia Nicoletti

    I can relate to being pregnant and it just did not agree with me at the end of my pregnancy. I was always so sick and couldn’t eat.

  • You’ve some good pointers there. I personally love being pregnant except for the 37-38 weeks of pregnancy. Being pregnant is hard but the reward that comes with it is so precious. I wish you luck in your pregnancy!

  • I love that you have a post birth bucket list! Wine and sushi would also be top of my list 🙂

  • Taylor Smart

    I love how honest you are about it! Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and glowing and people rubbing your belly!

  • Luci Cook

    I find it refreshing that not all expecting mothers love being pregnant. Finally someone is honest about the crap women go through baking a human being in their body.

  • Must See California

    Exactly! We just afraid to admit it, but it’s all true. But I’m thankful because of gift from God. Our body is a gift.

  • Razena Schroeder

    I love the idea of a fashion mood board! Your post was so funny and a breath of fresh air from all the moonshine and roses one often reads. All the best for birth.