Why You Shouldn’t Make New Year’s Resolutions

Is it that time of the year already? That time of the year to take inventory of all your wins and losses whilst frantically trying to conjure up a list of acceptable resolutions to impress your friends and family with. I had a revelation last night as I drearily put myself and my swollen feet to bed – I’ve decided to not make a single resolution for 2018 because quite frankly, I don’t think I’ve ever completed a single one of my resolutions. In fact, if you asked me what my resolutions were for this year I probably couldn’t tell you. Needless to say I haven’t achieved them and to save myself the disappointment of yet another year of failed resolutions – here is why you shouldn’t make any of for 2018. 

 

I’ve made some pretty vanilla resolutions in my life; like the standard I’m going to work out more, eat healthier and read a book every month. Do you know how long the shelf life of these resolutions was? Less than a month. I’m writing this post as I chow down on KFC, I haven’t graced the gym with my presence in over two months (whilst still paying my fees) and my daily exercise consists of scaling the stairs in our house to get to the kitchen.

 

New Year’s resolutions literally set you up for an epic fail because we often conjure them from thin air with no planning or thought process behind how to actually achieve them. The chances of success are about as slim as me suddenly be able to crap wads of cash to fund the incredibly expensive venture of raising a child that we’re about to embark upon.

 

Why You Shouldn’t Make New Year’s Resolutions

Most Goals Take Time to Achieve (a lot more time) Why you shouldn't make New Year's Resolutions

Let’s just say that your goal is to save enough for a deposit on a house – is it realistic to think that you are magically going to conjure up tens of thousands of hard earned dollars whilst not needing to spend a cent on everyday living? No. Imagine you get to December and find that you barely have enough saved to afford a plane ticket back home to see your family? Isn’t that going to make you feel like sh*t when you see that pathetic balance staring back at you. When we set ourselves big and important goals, we shouldn’t feel rushed to get it done because who needs that added pressure in their lives.

 

Peer Pressure

So you see everyone around you sharing their ambitious lists for the year ahead and can’t help but think that you’ll be falling behind unless you follow suit. FOMO gets us most of the time and a lot of the time all it takes is for you to realize that you’re not missing out on much. Whilst others may be ready for an overhaul of their lifestyle, you may not be in the same boat. Hey you may not even need a huge change because your life is pretty good as it is.

 

It Starts Your Year Off Negatively

Despite all the good intentions you have whilst making your list, by making New Year’s resolutions indicates to us that we’re not happy with an aspect or multiple facets of our life. It forces you to reassess all your inadequacies instead of focusing on all the positives in your life.

 

It Also Ends Your Year Negatively

Because resolutions are usually set and forgotten within the first few weeks of January. When Christmas creeps around as it inevitably does, you realize you’ve contributed 0% to f*ck all towards your goals because they were unrealistic – imagine the pity party you’d throw yourself. It then becomes a self-perpetuating cycle of feeling disappointed.

Remember… “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

 

There’s No Reason to Wait for the New Year to Make Changes

Why you shouldn't make new year's resolutions

What makes January so different to any other month of the year? For those who don’t live in Australia, January can be miserably cold and making resolutions like going to the gym everyday will seem ludicrous and unachievable. If you feel at any stage during the year that you want to change something, then do it right away because chances are you are actually ready for the change then. Putting it off until the New Year makes no sense.

 

At the risk of sounding cliché – every single day is a new day for you to start something. Making plans to change on the first of the first isn’t any different as making the same plan mid-way through the year. A genie isn’t going to appear and grant you three wishes on this day so why should January 1st be different to any other day. I’ve also found that setting daily and weekly goals to be much more effective than running the marathon of a yearly goal because you can celebrate your achievements quicker which boosts your morale and motivation to do more.  

 

We shouldn’t really need to wait for a new year to roll around before making the flaky decision to stop or start doing something; all the while knowing that you’ll probably give up after a few weeks. Truth is, we need to let change start and happen intrinsically – that is, do it when our subconscious says its time and not our calendars.

 

Are you making any New Year’s resolutions for 2018?

 

Why you shouldn't make new year's resolutions

 

Helen

Helen Chik is a Sydney based fashion, beauty, travel and lifestyle digital content creator and influencer sharing everything from unique style to her adventures around the world through her rainbow tinted lenses.

  • Patricia A. Go

    I agree that a lot of people (sometimes, me included) have set a lot of bad New Year’s resolutions and are probably better off not making them at all. I used to not make them too. However, I found that if I set realistic, measurable goals for myself (see my most recent post about Goals in 2018) and a plan to be able to accomplish them by the end of next year, the more likely I will be to accomplish them.

  • Ray Ruzzo

    I agree with all of these! Especially as it pertains to not waiting for the new year to start making changes.

  • Nawal Aharrass

    I completely agree with you because I never set new year’s resolutions either. The only thing I said I’ll keep in mind for 2018 is to be more optimistic and that was that. Welcome 2018

  • Nicole Lier

    Haha, you literally read my mind! I have no resolutions!! I have goals I continue to work on each and every day, and that’s how I look at it! I don’t need a new year and a new list! Just getting my grocery shopping done is a damn accomplishment for me 😂😂

  • Helena Marz

    I agree with you on not making resolutions, I find that when you make resolutions it usually doesn’t last very long. Lol I usually set my goals and take one step at a time which works well for me😊 Happy New Year❤️

  • Aditi Shukla

    I couldn’t agree more. I don;t make new year resolutions either. It’s all about staying motivated and constantly working on our goals at all times. Have a fabulous year. Cheers!!

  • Rachel Stone

    I totally agree with you! Making them just makes you think of all the things you didnt achieve the year before and puts pressure on you for the next year! Good to have aims and goals but nothing that’s going to put too much pressure on you!

  • Nataly Kimball

    I agree with you! I love making goals instead of resolutions!

  • Taylor Smith

    I make goals instead of resolutions. But I think you should definitely make big goals each year – just work to achieve them. Obviously your bank account isn’t going to fill itself, but if you put a little bit aside every month, you will reach your goal. 🙂

  • Great points Sydney. Statistically only 8% of resolutions are kept for the very reasons you noted. Changes are made powerfully when we can embrace and own them in our own due time. Thanks for sharing your insights!

  • Luci Cook

    I normally don’t make resolutions in the new year but I do make goal that I strive for.

  • Great post about the rating the year off negatively. I never thought about it that way. It is always good to get another viewpoint on thinngs. I just set goals no resolutions.

  • Ania Ropel-Sewielska

    That’s a very interesting post. I don’t really make any resolutions. Instead I write my goals, but it’s nothing unusual because I do it periodically throughout the year, adjusting them. It works best for me when I write them down in my calendar and include the whole plan with steps how to achieve it.

  • I think the last time I made New Year’s resolutions was in my junior year of high school. I’m glad I haven’t made them since then because it’s allowed me to enjoy my year without these things looming over my head that I feel the need to accomplish. Great article, friend!

  • Ashley Bass

    Love this!!! I dont make resolutions for these reasons. I do however have goals!

  • Lisa Rios

    While this is a great post, I have to disagree and say that when you do make it about the above things and focus on it, obviously setting goals will be disastrous. I set resolutions for myself because I want to improve, therefore they almost always work for me.

  • Celeste Godoy

    Love your post Helen! I’m all about goals instead of resolutions and focus on all the positive things going on in my life.

  • Christine Foster

    YES YES YES! Always have goals! Realistic goals that you know you have to work hard for! This post is awesome- thank you!

  • Britt+Whit

    ooh i love this fresh take on resoultions!

  • Bee K

    Yes! I love how realistic you are. I didn’t make any resolutions last year and my life was fine. This year i’m setting a few tiny goals.

  • Azanique

    This is such great insight! New starts can happen at any time 🙂

    -xo, Azanique | http://www.lotsofsass.com

  • Lauren Elizabeth

    I agree with starting healthy changes and setting goals in every month of the year!

    Xx,

    Lauren | http://www.mylifeaslaurr.com

  • Kathryn Parry

    Such an interesting post! I totally agree! Happy new year!

  • I personally don’t believe in resolutions. I find resolutions to be incredible vague, and how are you supposed to achieve something so vague (i.e. eat more healthy)? What does healthy entail? When do I measure this? How do I measure this? Something along the lines of ‘eat at least one vegetarian, vegetable laden meal a week for the next year’ is way more precise and easy to follow.

    I prefer to go in to the new year with a review of my goals and adding new goals. They are measurable, considered things that I want to achieve within a certain time frame. It is a much more positive experience than trying to make these huge overarching statements, and realising that you didn’t adhere to these huge overarching statements the previous year 😀

    <3 Mon
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    • I completely agree with you! I’ve just chosen not to do any resolutions and just set goals daily really because it’s more measurable!

  • I think our society is so used to making resolutions.. it has become a “thing”. However, I do agree with you.. making resolutions we may not be able to hold too can make us feel crappy if we can’t achieve them.

  • I didn’t really make resolutions this year but I have some intentions in mind and am just trying to go day by day and live life with no regrets! Happy new year Helen! xo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/creative/calvin-baby/

  • Meg Miller

    Resolutions to me seem like setting yourself up for failure. There is this stigma around them that you fall off the train mid-February if you even make it that far. I always like to create a focus for the year but not set certain guidelines.

  • Hahaha, I was so on the same page, but finally decided to get some “to do” for the year ahaha, But really not stressing much about it 🙂 I actually just posted about it 🙂